Why men have extramarital affairs?
Chat about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, this is it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on since old ages. Extramarital relationships can be filled with problems, cause despair, and other harms. Also you have to wrap your brain around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, funds, age dissimilarity, faith education, guilt, and on and on. I suppose there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I shall define an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, dating married men.
Why do women have extramarital affairs? There are as many reasons as there are seek affair. I am conserned generally though it is just the human condition, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a several reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Someone can turn the craving on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another individual, for some it is the desire to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos society has erected against extra-marital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their fears and make them risk the rage of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is horribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your family or anyone else? You would need to minimize the risk you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I suppose this is the largest cluster, colossal truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, but they are comfy in the way they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your spouse but there is no romance. Then there are the children to look after. Your savings are so tangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them completing the sex operation, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair occasionally solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, as a rule the man is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a man I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your wives and making them available to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be compassion is gone, maybe it is the closeness, could be neglect. Maybe we have just developed distantly, our relulas interests diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is opposite of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they look for the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.